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Transformational Counseling is about assisting another to transform his life. Transforming ones life is not about altering it. While life is much about undertaking differently, the genesis of the transformation is about a person altering or transforming his belief or believed of who he thinks he is. We tend to think that our life is determined or influenced by folks, areas, factors, conditions and circumstance and that who we are is the mere accumulation of our past experiences but this is not so. Rather, it is our thoughts and beliefs that decide our experiences and life and also that we are totally and solely accountable for their creation. What we feel and believe, specially about ourselves, determines our emotions and behavior in the planet and it is our behavior that merely validates what we feel and believe about ourselves. Furthermore, we think or believe that we know who we are in life but the reality is that we truly do not. Significantly of who we are actually being we are basically not present to. A lot of our life is spent in pretense and who we are genuinely becoming is hidden from us.
Offered that significantly of our life is lived in pretense, from the construct of ego, becoming present to that which is hidden, to who we are getting in life, is absolutely needed for transformation. It is in that which is primarily hidden from us that one particular will find out what is determining ones life, referred to here as ones self-limiting belief. The first component of the transformational approach is for 1 to turn out to be present to the hidden thoughts and beliefs that have been limiting him in life and in certain to his self-limiting belief. It is in the becoming of the self-limiting belief that 1 will find out the primary constraint or barrier to his life, to him living a life that he loves and living it powerfully. We reside life from who we feel we are. Who we assume we are types the context for our life. Getting the awareness or distinction of the self-limiting belief permits a single the capability to not be it, to not have his life be merely the probable nearly particular future from the previous. Without having the distinction of the self-limiting belief one will continue to create his life from the backdrop of this ideational barrier and as a outcome life will seem significantly as it did in the previous.
Becoming present to that which has been hidden, to that which has been actually figuring out his getting in life, enables one the chance to transform his life. Once a single gets who he has been becoming in life, the second element of transformative procedure is for the person to start to produce his life as a possibility. Once the distinction of the self-limiting belief is gotten, the person is now capable to actually generate a new possibility for himself and his life. Getting the self-limiting belief creates the space or an opening for a possibility or possibilities to be invented not as a outcome or product of the barrier or constraint but from or out of absolutely nothing. It is only from absolutely nothing that possibility can truly be designed. As with the self-limiting belief, possibility exists in language. After a single gets the language that he has been being, that has defined and restricted him by means of becoming his self-limiting belief, it is at this point that he can begin to recreate himself by way of the energy of his word. Who we are is our word. In is in ones language or word developed out of nothing that 1 has access to possibility and transformation.
The method described beneath is created to help an individual in becoming present to his self-limiting belief and in the approach to create the space or opening for him to invent a possibility or possibilities for recreating his life.
1. Discover a relaxing and comfy space to sit in for approximately a single hour. Arrange for this space to be totally free of any distractions. Just permit oneself to start to unwind. Turn into present to exactly where and who you are. The use of therapeutic relaxation music can promote the development of a extremely profound sense of relaxation to improve this experience.
2. Take a notebook and begin to write down every little thing that you think describes or defines who you are. Let your mind wander and do not attempt to filter or block out anything at all. Just let whatever comes up about oneself, how you really feel and what you believe about your self, to be written down. Who you believe you are or that which bests describes you might seem in single words or brief phrases. If in a group, share your description of your self with other individuals. In addition, make two lists as there will appear to be each positives and negatives aspects about who you feel you are.
3. Sit your notebook down, close your eyes and start to unwind deeply once again. Once again, the use of therapeutic relaxation music will help you in the process of generating a extremely deep state of relaxation. As you start to move into a deep state of relaxation allow yourself to start to drift back via time, back by way of your life, back by means of your adulthood, adolescence and into your childhood. Permit your self to turn out to be present to how you were being, experiences, thoughts and feelings, through the a variety of phases or stages of your life. Just turn into present to or notice what appears for you.
four. Open your eyes and return to operate on your notebook. Take a look at what you have written and add anything that you became present to about your self during the above talked about relaxation exercise. Once more, do not filter out anything but merely let whatever there is to come to the surface, both the good and unfavorable words that best describes who you feel and really feel you are or were.
five. As soon as you have come to a completion of making the lists, both positive and unfavorable, consider that the positives of who you think your self to be type the pretense of your life and that their design or function is to fix the negatives of who you think you are.
6. Let your self to turn out to be present to the negatives you have written down. Notice which a single of the negatives ideal describes who you are, what you typically think and really feel about your self, what you have skilled in your mind in the past and even now. Declare the negative aspect that is familiar to you to be your self-limiting belief.
7. Spot your notebook in your lap. Enable oneself to grow to be fully present to the reality that what you have written is you, is who you believe oneself to be. Become present to an inauthentic way of becoming, the positive as pretense and the negatives as that which we hide from ourselves and the planet.
eight. Spot the notebook into your previous. If you are correct handed location your notebook to your left. If you are left handed place your notebook to your right. Place the notebook approximately three feet from you.
9. When you place your notebook into your past allow oneself to become present to where your notebook is in relation to your body, to your appropriate or left. Allow oneself to again grow to be present to that which you have written in your notebook is who you think you are and that it exists to either your correct or left.
ten. Once you grow to be present to who you believe yourself to be, to the description of oneself as you have written, allow yourself to turn into present to what now lies in front of you. Given that who you assume you are is either to your left or appropriate, turn out to be present to what exists in front of you is nothing, an opening from which every thing and anything at all is feasible and can be designed.
11. Inside the nothing at all that seems in front of you, invent a possibility or possibilities for oneself and your life. Declare your possibility in language or word, of who you will take on becoming in life, for yourself. Moreover, this declaration becomes your personal affirmation of who you will be in and for the globe.
12. Repeat this exercising each day. Repeating this exercising daily will permit one to continue to remain present to his self limiting belief so as to not be it and also to the possibility or possibilities that he has designed and invented for himself and his life. Continuing this workout will also allow the further attainable unveiling of the self-limiting belief. The self-limiting belief that one initially becomes present to might reveal even deeper which means for who one particular is or has been becoming.
The exercising outlined above is about the work of the first two components of Transformational Counseling and one starting the process of transformation. As soon as 1 gets the distinction of his self-limiting belief and creates a possibility or possibilities for himself and his life, the third element of transformation requires understanding the method of enrollment. Enrollment is a powerful method for enabling a single to keep living into his possibility and out of his self-limiting belief. The fourth component of transformation is about making a everyday program. The everyday strategy enables 1 the opportunity to continue to reside into or create his possibility in his life on a day-to-day basis. The fifth component of transformation entails a commitment to keep in the conversation of transformation. It is in staying in the conversation that one experiences the nonlinear nature of transformation thereby keeping the procedure alive in his life.
Harry Henshaw, Ed.D., LMHC
